The shift from dating to hooking up in college after dating divorce man
Amanda, who did not wish to disclose her real name after receiving a genital herpes diagnosis last year, said that identifying hookups and relationships is “pretty straightforward.” “It’s either you just have sex or you go on dates,” she said, fidgeting with her long, pastel nails.
Dating hasn’t been particularly hard for Amanda, but since last year it’s gotten a bit more complicated.
“I told myself, ‘You don’t like tattoos,’” she said.
But eventually, she changed her mind, “..now [they’re] dating.” Dating in college is made out to be this super dynamic thing.
But when you take a closer look, most students aren’t really dating. Alejos’ definition of dating is getting to know the other person.
The dating culture on college campuses has shifted. Amanda studies sociology at Cal State Long Beach and defines dating as being exclusive.
“It used to be that guys slept with whoever they wanted to and women were looking for relationships,” Herrera said.
“Now I’ve seen a shift where guys are looking to be exclusive and women more commonly have more than one partner.” Lester added that hookups have become more common and far less people are looking for relationships.
“I had invited my boyfriend to watch me teach dance to a group of high schoolers.
Although she has a boyfriend now, who also has herpes, she found dating a bit challenging.
“I had to be responsible and disclose my condition. For many students, college has made dating a lot easier.
“I feel women have it easier because we know what we want, but men decide what it is we’re doing: are we dating or are we just hooking up? Not only has dating culture in many colleges changed, but their hookup culture has shifted as well.
Cypress College dance student Joselyn Herrera, 23, says men and women switched traditional gender roles recently, at least as far as heterosexual relations are concerned.