Telling dating goodbye
In so doing, he raised discussion regarding the appropriateness of his proposed solutions as well as the foundations on which he based his reasoning.
According to Harris, people in dating relationships put up a façade in an attempt to appear to be what the other person wants, thus hampering the "getting to know you" part of dating.
By the late 2010s, Harris reconsidered his view that dating should be avoided, apologizing to those whose lives were negatively impacted by the book and directing the book's publisher to discontinue its publication.
In I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Harris popularized the concept of "courting" as an alternative to mainstream dating.
In 2016, Harris appeared to be reconsidering the claims that he had made in the book and apologized to several who publicly communicated how the book had influenced them to stay single or had been used by adults to impose stringent rules on them.
To maintain the story that success is accessible to all, we’ve developed a tendency to seek out and elevate simplistic formulas that we hope come with guarantees.
I never really kissed dating goodbye as a teenager in the mid-2000s — to be honest, I was pretty late in kissing it hello.
But like many who were brought up in contact with evangelical culture, I absorbed its tenets almost by osmosis even though I never even read the whole book.
Aimed at teenagers and 20-somethings, the first-person polemic discouraged casual (or even serious) dating and argued strenuously against physical intimacy outside of marriage.
Sexual impurity was a “grimy film that coats the soul,” Harris wrote — but if you managed to wait, you would receive God’s best marriage.