My love dating space
After the child is born, however, parents need a new set of chemicals and brain networks to rear their infant as a team—the chemistry of attachment.
As a result, feelings of attachment often dampen the ecstasy of romance, replacing it with a deep sense of union with a mate.
It evolved for different purposes: to drive ancestral men and women to prefer, choose, and pursue specific mating partners, then start the mating process and remain sexually faithful to “him” or “her” long enough to conceive a child.
You can feel profound attachment for a long-term spouse, while you feel romantic passion for someone in the office or your social circle, while you feel the sex drive as you read a book, watch a movie, or do something else unrelated to either partner. We can only begin to understand the complexity of love, but I believe what it comes to down to is that she lost attraction for you.
Dating guru Eben Pagan coined the phrase: “attraction isn’t a choice”, elegantly summarizing the insight that love befalls us, we do not chose it.
We do this, ironically, to appease our girlfriends, to make her happy. Paradoxically, the more you’re willing to sacrifice yourself for her, the more you end up pushing her away.
Fast forward a couple of months and she finds herself in a relationship with someone she has come to know intimately well, but somehow it doesn’t feel right.