Dating moms with young children
Wisdom Is Misery, aka WIM, uses his background as an internal auditor to provide objective, yet opinionated, qualitative and quantitative analysis on life, love, and everything in between.
WIM is not a model, a model citizen, or a role model.
I have friends who have gotten upset because a woman they are dating has to drop everything for their child. A woman should not be placed in a position to choose between the child she loves and the man she likes.
If you don’t understand that, then you aren’t ready for this type of relationship and it is best if you do not bother wasting her time or yours. I’ve written on whether you need the baby’s father approval before — and for the record, no you do not.
It’s a huge disparity that can create a lot of discord without the right level of understanding.
If love is about putting in the effort to understand one another, then it’s my duty to express who I am and what I feel.
While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.
Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.
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Before your relationship gets serious, you should know what role, if any, the baby’s father has in the child’s life, and what type of relationship the two parents have with one another.
Contrary to popular belief — and Lifetime movies — not every woman with a child is looking for a second parent if the biological parent is actively involved in the child’s life and doing a good, low-drama job of co-parenting.
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But if you take away who we are as people, what remains is our differing positions in life; I’m a single mother and he’s a childless dude.
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But when deciding to date a woman with a child, you should be clear about your expectations for the relationship upfront with yourself and her.