Dating for parents with kids
Kids needs to know that they only have one mother, and that’s not you.It’s their biological mother that has given birth to them.You are dating someone with kids, not their kids nor their ex. Let your true self shine and they will love you for what you are, not because you are better than someone else.
If you are dating someone with kids, you have to accept that everyone has their own role in this love game. You are an independent person with your own qualities that has a great personality.
If you are dating someone with kids older than 10 years old, then you have to remember that they are going through their teen phase when things are uncertain. If they show some kind of disrespect, don’t take it personally. Even if they like you, they need to see strong evidence that you are “cool” enough for them. Competing with the real mother or father of the kids never ends well.
They have a huge advantage, so what’s the point of trying to compete with them? It’s not a competition where you need to show what a great mother you would be if it was you in the first place.
Are you able to see them getting into a defensive position? Do they give you straight answers and are confident about their new relationship with you? If you are dating someone with kids and you constantly bring it up, you are risking your entire relationship. Especially when they have just went through a difficult break up or a divorce.
They need some time to take it easy and not being pushed.